#Integrity has been on my mind for a few days. It plays an important role in my friendships, in my work as an author and as a #ThetaHealer. Or maybe it is just plain important.
Integrity is defined as “the quality of being honest and having strong moral principles”.
I talked yesterday with my friend, a women and teens coach in California about the many applications of integrity in our daily work with clients. It’s integrity that guides my decisions as a counselor, as a healer and in my private life. My friend shared how it guides her in sharing or not sharing with parents as she coaches their teenagers
Only if I stay within the boundaries of integrity can I live with myself. There’s an #intuitive wisdom that urges me to notice how I live my life. Any time I push the bounds of it I feel uncomfortable and have to get honest with myself and ask, “Was I fully appropriate in what I did?” Generally I am harder on myself than necessary so it isn’t that I do a lot that creates problems for me it’s just an awareness that comes up when something doesn’t feel right. Then I must discern am I being overly critical of myself or did I make a mistake.
Recently I asked a different friend to be more cautious in what personal information I’ve shared with her that she shares with others. I’d like her not to share so much of it. I could just tell her less but this is the first time it’s come up. Knowing this friend also intentionally lives a principled life I’m sure all is well.
Dan Millman in his book The Life You Were Born to Live (1993) suggests four actions that can make a difference when intending to live in integrity.
1. Respect the opinions and choices of others; above all, listen to your own heart.
2. Before acting or making an important decisions ask yourself, “What would my higher self do?”
3. Whatever your role in life… you are leading others by your example.
4. Find what inspires you in life and follow it.
Living in integrity is an active daily process. It requires #awareness of my thoughts, actions and motives; restraining myself as needed and quickly speaking up and cleaning up if I’ve made an error.
Although not always easy, a life guided by principles and honesty certainly creates the ease of equanimity.